Writing contribution by Marie Therese Batt
I’ll be the first to admit that I have my favorite YouTubers, and that I enjoy scrolling through my Instagram feed. But as much as I enjoy them, I know I need to be careful, too, and here’s why.
Instagrammers and vloggers generally create an enviable (and edited) lifestyle for us to watch with their carefully selected moments. It’s very easy for us to sit back, tune in, and enjoy someone else’s life. And why not? With so much to see, you inevitably become a loyal fan, and keep coming back for more.
The problem with being such a good fan is that we stop participating in our own life. We forget to dust our own shelves, and water our own gardens. Basically, we stop investing time and energy into our lives, which need lots of love and attention, too!
Another problem with being such a great audience member is that it becomes easy for us to compare, rather than create. And I bet when you’re comparing, you’re not being hard on everyone else. Ten to one, you’re being overly critical of yourself. Am I right?
Just think about it. How often do we feel intimidated by someone’s success, whether that be online or otherwise? How often do we compare someone else’s following with our own? Or their life, appearance, success or brand message? Way too often!
I came across a great quote (On Instagram, of course!) that said,
Don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 20.”
We forget that we’re looking at someone’s chapter 20, or that we’ve already written our first twenty chapters.
When we’re busy comparing, we’re also sitting on the sidelines, watching everyone else score big, while we give ourselves one penalty card after another.
The next time you’re scrolling through your favorite feed, listen very carefully to the thoughts in your head—you’ll hear some negative and limiting criticism scrolling by, too.
So, what’s the solution? I don’t think we should go on strike against social media, because it’s a great way to connect, network and support your message.
But!—and this is a very big but!—it’s so important, perhaps now more than ever, to make a conscious decision to engage in your life, first and foremost. It’s not enough to simply watch others create and succeed, while you sit there, and repeat mantras like, “I am enough” to yourself.
You have to become the creator of your life and make it beautiful for you! Not just for getting more “likes” and followers—on any level—but for you!
This is one of the main themes in my book, The Heiress Project: Every Girl’s Guide to Reclaiming Your Worthiness and Creating a Life You Actually Love.
Our role as mindful creators of our own life is super empowering and fun way to live, and it’s a role we all share in common. That means that you can become the creator of your life, just as much as anybody else—just as much as those women you follow and admire. You can become the creator of your life, not just by blindly “doing”, but by believing that you are worth a beautiful life.
Worthiness doesn’t discriminate. But you do, and you’ve got to stop, love!
Good things don’t come to those who wait. Good things come to those who create, and I believe that every woman has the power within her heart and mind to create a good life. She just has to believe this to be true, and make it her own, personal truth.
Because if you believe this, you can release the limiting beliefs that are holding you back, and keeping you on the sidelines.
It’s a beautiful thing to support other women, but don’t forget to support yourself! And for as many “likes” that you dole out to everyone else, make sure you’re giving yourself that many thumbs up, too! You have to love what you do, and what you’re putting out there; you have to take time to acknowledge your achievements and successes, and you have to give yourself some very high-fives.
If you’d like to start creating a life you actually love, come check out my book, The Heiress Project: Every Girl’s Guide to Reclaiming Your Worthiness and Creating a Life You Actually Love and start a journey toward fulfillment and fun!
WRITING CONTRIBUTION BY MARIE THERESE BATT: AUTHOR BIO
Marie Therese Batt’s is a writer and blogger at www.marietheresebatt.com. Her work focuses on empowering women to love who they are, and to change the way they view themselves. Her own struggles with anorexia nervosa and depression are the catalyst and inspiration for her writing, which has given many women the support and encouragement needed to change their thinking and their lives.
Marie is passionate about travel and learning, and some of her notable experiences have been graduate studies in literature, as well as living abroad in Germany. Marie currently lives in Italy, where she enjoys eating with the locals at little trattorias.
Check out her new book here!
The Heiress Project: Every Girl’s Guide to Reclaiming Your Worthiness and Creating a Life You Actually Love and start a journey toward fulfillment and fun!
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